Originally posted by @Christopher Lewis:
My "mentor" told me to stop chasing FI and to get a secure job. Should I fire him? What should I do?
I have a sort of unique take on this (or so I think), so bear with me please.
I grew up in the Los Angeles, where immigrant real estate entrepreneurs have made fortunes, especially in Class B and C multifamily, and mid sized hotels. We're talking folks from Korea, who sometimes started out in grocery stores and retail, had stores burned in the '92 riots, went through lots of hardship. People from Vietnam, who fled here in the 70's with the clothes on their back after the war. Chinese and Taiwanese immigrants, plenty of whom started their own businesses. Others were immigrants from Iran who were fleeing deadly anti-Semitism back home after the 1979 revolution, and got into the garment business and then real estate. Then, there are folks from India who were engineers and jewelry store owners and started investing their money.
A few generations earlier, folks from Italy and Poland and Russia and elsewhere in Europe did this too, in Chicago, New York City, Philadelphia, I'm sure lots of other places. These folks built property EMPIRES under very adverse conditions (WWI, WWII, Great Depression etc).
The point is, folks came here with limited money, few connections, an unfamiliar environment, a shaky grasp on the language, and sometimes, not much education, and in most cases, limited real estate knowledge. Disadvantages, right? Sure. What they DID have was a drive to succeed. They formed relationships, often within their own community, because they had no other relationships really. They pooled capital. They got out there and took action.
Was it hard? Knowing a couple of these folks in LA personally, I can say, hell yes. Would anyone looking at likely real estate investing successes in Los Angeles, 30 or 40 years ago, or Chicago and NYC 110 years ago, have picked most of these folks? Almost certainly not. But here we are.
The point is, we all come face some sort of challenges in succeeding (sometimes, like these folks, severe obstacles), and we all have our strengths and weaknesses. I know my construction and rehab knowledge needs work, for example. Other folks may not be outgoing, or understanding financing as well.
However, you capitalize on their strengths, want it bad enough, and find others who compliment what you don't have (and make sure their weaknesses get just a little better, don't drag them down). If this is what you want, and you're willing to do what it takes, no one but yourself can truly stop you. People have come from nothing to achieve, not just in real estate either.
Now, your mentor may have had a point (inartfully expressed, to be sure) that starting out with a full time job can make sense. If you had a good job and make solid 6 figures, getting financing for properties early on is easier, and you don't have to look for as many partners early on. Also, a job does provide stability - there's nothing dirty about an honest day's work, and moving towards your goal of financial freedom over time. I think most people do it that way.
As far as what he said about your skills, you're not meant to be an entrepreneur, whatever, you can treat it as one data point, and keep moving forward, or you can let it get you down. We all have people and situations that don't encourage us, but we do choose how we react to it. If this mentor doesn't work for you, fine, ditch him, but align with folks who DO push you forward.
Have you heard of Benjamin Hardy, the motivational coach and I think psychologist? Google him, he's great. He talks a lot about how one's personality and identity is, in a sense, not fixed, and can be shaped by actions. So, the right actions can change your identity and personality, not just the other way around. If you want to be more "entrepreneurial" or more "real estate oriented" then take actions in line with that goal.
Go to meetups. Learn about investing. Read books. Find folks you can align with, not just as investors, but over time, as friends too. People with drive and character and good values. And over time, you'll start doing deals. I'm fairly early in my investing career, and have a lot more action to take, and things to learn. I know 0 compared to some folks I know, even people my age who've been doing it for 8 or 10 or 15 years. But I believe I'll get there. Doubt at your own risk.
And so will you. Go forth and prosper my friend. Financial independence is absolutely something you can achieve, and much more.